„The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.“
I am sure that we all have made decisions in our life and asked afterwards: „What would have happened if I had made another decision?“ Well, the moment has gone and there is no turning back, no chance to change what has happened. And – believe me or not – when you try to imagine the consequences that a change of your decision might have brought, you will see that you made the decision that was the best for you at this point in your live and the only one you could have made.
Fall Down 7 Times, Stand up 8
Or: Learn from your mistakes and keep going
Chicken out, or shake it off and try again?
Let me tell you about something that happened recently. I had the chance to give a 30-minute presentation in front of a group of colleagues. As was inevitable, I had more than the usual amount of excitement, and gave a lot of thought to what I wanted to say. This is how it usually is with me. When I have too many thoughts, I become paralyzed, and eventually I am unable to think of anything.
To make a long story short: As I walked off the stage after just under 30 minutes, I knew: "Girl, you really screwed up that one."
My core message did not emerge, and my listeners received from me no concrete tips for implementation.
Things got even worse when I stumbled by chance across an article, in which my lecture had received a negative review. As I said – it was on the mark! Nevertheless, it felt bad and I was even more annoyed with myself. I had blown a great opportunity.
Now, there were two possibilities for me. I could choose to give up and never go onstage again, or I could hold my head up, analyze the mistakes, and make it better for next time. I decided to go with the second option.
Each of you has probably experienced this situation: You're sitting in a meeting, or you're in a conversation within the family, someone makes a proposal, and then hears the response "Where would we be if..."
Are you familiar with the quote by Steve Jobs, founder of Apple: "Stay hungry! Stay foolish!“ A man considered a visionary by many others; a man who always believed in what he produced. A man who will forever be linked with the name of his company.
Phew – what a week! Three 14-hour days in a row, 1000 kilometers driven in the car, and nights of disturbed sleep...
Do you know this feeling? You flounder in the hamster wheel and don't even notice as the hours and days trickle past. You have no time to stop. It always seems to you that you are struggling to get somewhere without ever arriving.
First, you were building your own company, then came the hunt for new customers, seemingly endless, the guilty feeling as you face an email inbox with a three-digit number of unread messages. Your family understands, and yet you know that they're getting too little of your time.
It's the beginning of the year – time to set new goals, to look ahead and plan how the year will unfold.
Most of us set goals, be it for ourselves or for our business. And almost everyone hears at least once in his professional life what those goals should look like:
S = Specific
M = Measurable
A = Attractive
R = Realistic
T = Timed
Recently, I was excited by a long discussion I had with a good friend. During our conversation, he told me about a big goal of his. However, he was not as enthusiastic and full of energy as you might expect. Instead, he looked thoughtful, and in the pauses I had the feeling that he himself no longer really believed that he could achieve his goal.
What had happened? My friend had a dream, a goal, and he had a very specific date set for when he wanted to achieve the goal: February 29th. But not February 29, 2016. On the contrary. He had set this date many years ago, and now February 29th had already passed by twice on the calendar without his being any closer to his destination.
Do you recognize this scenario? You've set your goal, you probably even have it painted in dazzling colors. You can smell it, taste it, feel it, and see it in your mind's eye. You are so excited that you will talk about it to anyone who will listen, and to everyone else, as well. You're motivated by your own wave of enthusiasm and you're raring to go.
And then, from out of nowhere, there it is – the wall! Not just a stone that's been thrown on the path between you and your goal, not a small obstacle that you can relatively easily overcome. No, a massive, high wall that is solid and seemingly insurmountable. This wall prevents you from even seeing your goal. What now? How can you go on?
At first, many of us – and here I count myself among the group – tend to see only the problem. The predicament, which appears to have no solution. We lose our courage to tackle it, and we sit in the shadow of this wall. We're angry with the world, and everyone around us – especially those who celebrate their seemingly effortless successes one after another.
Here is the point where the chaff is separated from the wheat. Do you belong to the group that sits feeling sorry for themselves and waits to be rescued? Do you allow this barrier to ensure that you lose sight of your goal? Do you let it discourage you and cause you to give up? Or are you one of the people who gets back up again after a period of mourning and anger? These are the ones who look at the wall very carefully and find a loophole, a ladder, or a different way to overcome this obstacle.
Tonight, I have given myself some additional training – a fireside chat with Eugen Simon and Cemal Osmanovic on the topic of "Spoiled for Choice."
Do you, also, experience the feeling that you are standing in a supermarket, in front of bulging shelves, and don't know which jam you should choose? Your wardrobe is well-stocked, and yet you feel like "I have nothing to wear"? In a restaurant, you read the menu up and down, and you can't decide which dish you want to order?
I admit, that's often the case with me. We live surrounded by such an abundance that we no longer even know what we want and what we want to choose. Why does it feel so difficult for us? Is it really just the fear of making the wrong choice, or is there something more to it?